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Posted: 13 May 2012 12:53 PM

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Hi
Yes, this is a great idea and I look forward to going on a course one day.
I wonder if there are other users of the site who have been diagnosed, like me, with an early menopause? I’m 42 and last summer began to suffer from insomnia and anxiety, seemingly from out of the blue. My GP was wonderful, but he didn’t connect my symptoms with the menopause. It was during a conversation with my mother, when she mentioned her age when she became menopausal that I thought ‘ahh…I wonder…’ And sure enough my hormone levels showed that I was indeed menopausal.
It has been such a difficult journey, perhaps made worse by not being able to share it with my friends. No laughing about our symptoms over a bottle of wine! And sometimes the sense that they are a little afraid to hear too much about it because it’s frightening.
I’d be delighted to connect with others in my situation!

 

Posted: 13 May 2012 12:53 PM

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Hi Kathy,

Yes I do understand your sense of being alone with your menopausal symptoms. I too started mine before my friends and felt very isolated. I think it’s such a shame that it is still difficult to talk about it openly – this was one of the reasons I decided to set up this venture – to try and break this ‘taboo’!

So thank you for writing here and I hope we’ll have some more women joining soon.

Susanne

 

Posted: 13 May 2012 12:54 PM

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Hi,

I too am going through an early menopause – I am 44 but symptoms started when I was 43.
My menopause (or menopausal symptoms), was triggered by treatment for breast cancer – so was sudden and came at an already difficult time. I can’t actually get a proper diagnosis at present as the docs say my chemo will have messed up my hormones so any test would be inconclusive.
I find people seem to be uncomfortable if I mention night sweats etc, and trying to even broach the subject of sexuality (vaginal irritation, feeling unattractive etc) is nigh on impossible! (that’s maybe as much down to me as anyone else – which is why this type of forum is such a good idea).
I look forward to haivng the chance to share with others in a similar situation.

 

Posted: 13 May 2012 12:55 PM

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Hi, my periods stopped at 40yrs old, we were thinking of trying for a family, so thought I was pregnant, had 2 blood tests a few weeks apart from each other when I found out I wasnt pregnant, the 1st blood test confirmed I was going through early menopause, the Dr thought the results were incorrect, so did another test which confirmed it. My mum went through the same at 40 as well but had 4 kids by then.
Im now 45, and just started HRT as had no idea about it, or if it would help symptoms, until I went to the doctors when I had a chest infection, I was lucky enough to see a lovely female doctor who specialises in Osteoporosis and menopause, it was heaven to speak to someone who understood, she recommended HRT to help to control night sweats, (which I hate the description of, cant we call it something else?)
It made me chuckle when my other half gave up smoking recently and his “night sweats” were worse than mine, hilarious, even though he tried to blame me! Bless him..
I teach Pilates and practice it daily, its helped with relaxation and with flexibility and keeping me feeling young and supple.
Its nice to read other experiences, as sometimes you do feel alone, I had a real emotional day yesterday, crying over something so pathetic it was ridiculous, still feeling drained today! Yet in these modern times we seem to not want to discuss it, when theres probably others in the same boat, so am grateful for sites like this starting, its inspirational, thank you! Its nice to know you dont have to have HRT and theres an alternative, thank you for sharing!
Mel
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Posted: 13 May 2012 12:56 PM

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Hi everyone,

what a joy to read about others going through early menopause! I am 45 and got my hormone blood tests results last week – “yes Louise, you are in the Menopause”! I have to say I was relieved (not to be in the menopause) that I had an answer to the awful way I had been feeling for quite some months. I remember going to the Dr’s in 2003 with Hot Flushes, to be told that I was too young to be going through the menopause (no blood test given or offered), but I think that may have been the start of it then!

I cannot believe the tiredness and exhaustion I get on a regular basis. I have been having flushes for a while and feel so clammy, sometimes for ages – is this right! I cannot speak with anyone about it as my friends are not going through it! My attitude is so awful sometimes too. I used to put it all down to stress!

I would love to hear others symptoms, as I am still getting my head around it all and feel quite confused. My Dr (last week), gave me HRT patches (Oestrogen) as I have the Mirena Coil so get the progesterone from that where it is needed. But as I don’t have periods I don’t know if and when I will have gone through it totally. I still have not used the patches as I don’t know anyone who has taken them and if they worked for them. But if I keep feeling as bad as I do I will be ripping that box open pretty soon! I just don’t like reading about the side effects associated with it!

Oh the joys of being woman x

 

Posted: 13 May 2012 12:57 PM

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I started my menopause when I was 45 and trying to get pregnant – it was so horrible like a real roller coster – my period would be days late and so my hopes were sky-high thinking that we’d eventually managed it – I even felt I was beginning to get those nausea feelings and then I’d get the heaviest bleeding out – so distressing and upsetting. It was only when I went to my Doctor and they did a menopause test that I found out what was happening – I was devastated. I still haven’t come to terms with it all.

 

Posted: 13 May 2012 12:58 PM

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I have recently come across a great site for ‘early or premature menopause’ that you might like to look at – it’s called the Daisy Network on www.daisynetwork.org.uk. They define premature menopause as anyone who has their menopause before the age of 45.

I hope it helps and best wishes to you all.

Susanne

 

Posted: 13 May 2012 12:59 PM

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I’ve just been looking at the Daisy network site – it is good site – I just wish I had known about it years ago – thank you Susanne